Two people have been in a marriage or partnership for numerous years. In their years together, they’ve experienced happiness, despair, loss, laughter, love, anger, frustration, resentment, pride, celebration, excitement, pain, sorrow and success.
Throughout they have sacrificed, tolerated, forgiven, loved, laughed and transcended those moments when they were put to the test as friends, lovers, individuals, partners and parents.

Today however, they are separated. They are going through a roller coaster of feelings and emotions and struggling with decisions and choices. Their lives together are in many ways both similar to many couples yet undoubtedly very unique as no two are exactly alike.

If reading this touches you and you are at a crossroad, here are but a few questions to ask yourself as you take steps forward in your own life. It may help you look at yourself and your relationship in a different light and perhaps from a new perspective.

What specifically made me fall in love with my partner?
What has been a turning point in our relationship?
How have I changed over the years?
How have those changes made me feel more like me?
How much do I really want to be in this relationship?
What have I done to make this partnership work?
What am I willing to do to save it?
What is at stake?
What can I live with?
What can I live without?
What do I absolutely need from any relationship to be happy?
What are my personal values?
If I stay in this relationship how will I be honoring my values?
What values do my partner and I share as a couple?
Who can help me sort out my feelings?

Whatever the outcome tomorrow, having no regrets reaps peace of mind for those who are willing to do their homework today.

~Lesia S.